December 26, 2019 Spirit Meat Devotional : Topic - RESOLVING CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE (3) - Amos 3:3, 1 Peter 3:7
December 26, 2019 Spirit Meat Devotional : Topic - RESOLVING CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE (3) - Amos 3:3, 1 Peter 3:7
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I want to continue today where I stopped yesterday concerning one of the major problem areas in marriage which is SEX MATTERS. I told you most Christians want to shy away from this but that will not be the best approach. Whenever the pastor gets on the matter of sex in church, everybody wants to wear the Saint-Mary look. There was a brother when we were growing up. He was about the holiest brother that you can see; he was always saying, “Don’t talk about sex.” I said, “Bro, you are not holy.” He was surprised. Today, among all of us that got married, he has the most number of children; he has children every year and he said we shouldn’t talk about sex.
A woman raised a question years ago: “My husband wants to kiss me but his mouth smells. How do I go about this? If I tell him, he will be offended.” Many women face that problem, and it is affecting their sex life. Now, if you don’t tell him, somebody will tell him outside in a bad place; how you tell him is where wisdom comes in. In that case, you can buy him a mouth wash. You will be the first to start using it and then you invite him to join you. You can also arrange that the two of you see the dentist together for some professional touch to the mouth odour. To allow mouth odour affect your sex life without dealing with it is foolish. So, don’t gloss over sex matters. If you are not mature enough to talk about sex, you are not mature enough for marriage.
Start disciplining yourself to attack every problem at issue level and deal with it there. Separate the issue from the person. The woman with the issue of blood is different from the issue of blood. You have issues and your wife has issues, solve the issues without attacking the person. Every attack against the person weakens the relationship. The first time I said sorry to my wife was not long after we got married. It was the Holy Spirit that told me to do so. I didn’t abuse her but spoke sharply to her while having a discussion.
You may need to apologize to your spouse also on discovering that you have done damage to that relationship by the use of words and the actions you have taken because of issues that could have been addressed. God will always defend the person; God will not excuse the issue, but He will defend the person. The devil will always come after the person and give you enough justification to keep attacking the person of each other until your marriage is irreparably damaged.
PRAYER: I receive boldness to take necessary steps and adjustments to make my marriage a heaven on the earth. Amen!
BIBLE IN A YEAR: Zechariah 9:1-17, Revelation 17:1-18, Psalm 145:1-21, Proverbs 30:32
December 26, 2019 Spirit Meat Devotional : Topic - RESOLVING CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGE (3) - Amos 3:3, 1 Peter 3:7
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